For the past few years I’ve had fun building my social media presence on Instagram and connecting with a delightful and dedicated following of clients, colleagues, family, and friends. Plus some people who only knew me through social media.
However, in January, I decided to quit and leave the platform after feeling like it was no longer serving me. It’s been one of the best decisions I’ve made in a while.
Here are the top three reasons I quit and why I don’t see myself returning.
Time
Social media is designed to capture our attention, and capture my attention it did. I was spending so much time on the platform, thinking about my posts, filming, editing, captioning my posts, commenting on others posts, responding to comments, and yes, mindlessly scrolling. Time is the most precious resource we have, and this habit was taking significant amounts of it away from my rest and leisure, my family, and my work. And rather than giving me additional income, my unpaid labor and the energy going into creating content was helping make even more money for billionaire Mark Zuckerberg.
My mental health
Despite some beautifully positive things on social media (more on this below) Instagram is also filled with tragic graphic videos, disturbing headlines, an onslaught of hateful opinions, scams, and constant invitations of comparison with other’s vacations, bodies, businesses, homes, and children’s accomplishments. For me, these small sparks of joy are buried in an onslaught of this other burning garbage, much of which noticeably contributed to my levels of anxiety and depression.
My children’s mental health
Reading The Anxious Generation really sealed the deal for me. In it, Jonathan Haidt lays out extremely clear, compelling, and horrifying research on how early smart phone and social media use has caused an epidemic of mental illness in children, especially girls. My husband and I are committed to our daughter’s enjoying childhoods free from smart phones and social media. One of the best ways I know how to do this is modeling life without social media and intentional, brief phone usage like taking a picture or looking up directions rather than scrolling as a pastime. I highly recommend reading The Anxious Generation if you haven’t already, and also checking out the author’s initiative Let Grow for fostering phone free childhood independence in the real world. You can download a free summer experience guide to do with your kids this Summer!
Of course there are some things I do miss about social media. Mostly you all! All the lovely people who stayed in touch and shared kind words, knowledge, cute pictures, and stories that helped us stay connected. Still, I’d rather meet one friend for tea or lunch a month, or even send an individual text or picture than connect with hundreds of people each month with an emoji or an exchange of a few words. And I can stay informed about the world in ways that are less triggering to my anxiety, such as reading or listening to a trusted news source once or twice a day.
Maybe this doesn’t resonate. Maybe you’ve never been on social media. Maybe you have great boundaries with social media and it continues to serve you well in your life. I realize that social media is here in our world and will never go away. And I think it serves us all to bring a little more intention into our social media habits, or any relatively new technology that we find ourselves spending hours a day consuming.
At the very least, take a break. Put down the phone and take a walk, paint with your kids, or just go to sleep 20 minutes earlier. Who knows? You might enjoy it more than you expect.
Warmly,
Dr. Lizzie